Jim Carrey’s Roar of Applause (Not from being funny)

In the commencement speak to Maharishi University Jim Carrey injects the humor and fervor you expect from such a consummate actor and comedian. But that is sidelined to the pieces of wisdom he gently sprinkles throughout the twenty six minutes. The crowd is often found chuckling, smiling and clapping. But one moment seemed to find the most resonance with the hopeful and eager crowd of graduates. One moment pulling from the experience given to him by the sacrifices his father made. Which I find most appropriate as I write this on the eve of father’s day weekend. Even with the comedic potential his father had, the fear of the unknown, the fear of pursuing your dreams, the fear of success, whatever fear it was derailed his aspirations to eventually have him become an accountant. And even with this so called “safe” choice a few years down the line his job was taken from him. This was the moment where seven year old Jim Carrey was able to see impermanence of your choices. Flash forward to the now fifty-two year old Carrey standing in front of the graduating class of 2014 with a smile ear to ear. From telling that story Carrey so powerfully states, “You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on what you do.”

The crowd, all several hundred students, parents, faculty, family and friends immediately erupted into applause and cheer. The resonance of such a statement immediately places my thoughts with my father and realizing the choices he has made in life. But it is not the lack of choice that haunts me about him, it is the fulfillment of his. Even when you speak with him to this day, some 15 years retired he still reminiscences with such passion and love for his profession. There is never a thought to change any moment within those twenty years of his career. A career that was cut short for an indefinite period of time. A career that he felt so strongly about that was taken away from his in an instant. This is the realization of choice that haunts me. It makes me want to amend the words that caused such an applause to roar from the crowd. “ You can lose the things you want to keep, so you might as well keep going after the things you want.” Making a choice you believe to be right, or comfortable, is a path many people follow away from their dreams or aspirations. Which can only place the burden of loss on you. But there are the instances where you follow your path and it still can be taken away, but in a manner that you can not blame or overcome.

It is in that thought that I was stuck many times. How can we persevere through so many trials to find ourselves in personal bliss only to have it taken away? Taken away in such a way that the action is faceless, blameless. This can be a paralyzing thought that leads to inaction. But it is a thought that is derived from carrying only one perspective. There is a mantra that is re-used and transformed many times but still rings true because of it. “Do know worry about the things you cannot control.” My father was a living, breathing and preaching example of it. Even in the face of having something ripped away from him that he so dearly loved the immediate thoughts of his life experience were not that of anger or resentment towards what was possibly lost, but of enjoyment and love towards what was certainly gained.

It is a lesson that has been stitched through the time of all human history. Like the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius’ proclaimed, “Choose not to be harmed – and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed – and you haven’t been.” My father choose not to feel wronged, but to feel grateful for even knowing what right felt like.

As Mr. Carrey moves along through his speech there is a genuine feel about his words that I can not but feel similar to my fathers. As we go through life so often we find ourselves caught amongst these hurdles that we place right in front of ourselves. They can be so often debilitating especially when they are self-constructed. If you are never given this advice from a loved one, take it now. There is no good and bad that we come across for these are self constructs as we react to your situation. If you find yourself caught in a bad situation, simply change your perspective.

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Engineering your Environment-Formal Education at an Informal Price

You are going to party no matter where you are!

 

Being an alumni from 4 different colleges and only having one degree allows me to dictate this process with ease. What I should add to that statement is I was able to reach this feet in the same 4 year time frame, live in three different major cities, receive my degree from the most reputable of those attended (which is a private school somewhere around 40k/yr nowadays) and do it for a 1/5 of the cost Continue reading

How you should really being looking at fast food!

 Clowns are making you fat, stealing your money, and your time!

Why McDonalds isn’t just making you fat!

Approximate Read Time ~ 6-7 minutes

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Since my private investigation days I have always had some quarrels about the Fast food Nation that we have developed in our country. More sadly in other countries as well, in Medellin Colombia some years ago, what became a family attraction with all its bright lights and sub-conscious color associative marketing? That’s right, McDonalds. While living with a family native to that city for decades they all came to me with so much excitement and wonder in their eyes, saying they had somewhere to take me that felt like home. I wasn’t going to tell them that I was here to experience completely the opposite, but I do love peoples’ genuine care about each other. As the 16 year old daughter ripped between gears, with suicidal motorcyclist weaving between us, we approached this glowing beacon in the city center. God dammit, there is no end to their reach. McDonalds was the late night attraction, and worst of all what they thought would feel like home for some ignorant gringo. I obliged in entering with them but decidedly ordered nothing, and went into detail about this little experiment I decided to try. Continue reading

Diversification: The key to Everything

40 years at one job is not commitment, its devaluing yourself

-Diversification: the key to investing successfully, so if one section tanks the others will keep you afloat. Apply the same philosophy to your work and lifestyle.

Sample: 100 people at the age of 60. Of this test group 61 people were what I call “Aces”, they stayed in for the long haul. May not have worked in the exact same company for their professional lives, but were extremely tracked in their work environment. They played the game with their best card and nothing else. The other 39 people were what I labeled as, “Wild Cards”. They transitioned through life always having a “best card”, which they focused on at any particular time. Continue reading

The Best Piece of Advice

It can be very different for each person but, you must step out of the comfort zone that you build around yourself. Travelling is one the most highly recommended things to do to  open up your mind, but sometimes that isn’t enough. Find that one thought that makes your heart race, that makes you feel nervous, and make a b-line towards it.

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BORN IN THE WRONG COUNTRY? Societal conditions of acceptance

Engineering your Environment-Gearing the world to you

BORN IN THE WRONG COUNTRY? : Societal dictations of acceptance (Ever think that, read this then)

 

Besides the fact that everyone at some point in their life, preferably earlier, should visit and/or live in another country I have constantly contemplated this question. Was I born in the wrong country? Is there something wrong with me because I am not like everyone else? For what felt like an eternity I thought yes to both of these, until Bob Marley showed me the light. Continue reading